Being Happy for Others
Let’s take a moment to admit to ourselves that we’ve disliked someone for no reason? Have you ever wondered may be it was just your envy? Don’t be afraid to admit it. It’s happened to all of us. Being envious is as common as feeling any other emotion. The only way to get rid of envy is by consciously correcting it.
More often than we understand, it can be hard to be happy for others. Sometimes we’re not able to appreciate someone’s success or achievement when everyone else is being able to do it. We have thoughts like ‘I could have done that too. No big deal.’ Or ‘why does everyone think this person is so nice? Probably just fake’ – remember that no one cares about you enough to be happy just to rub it in your face. It’s not personal, it’s not about you.
Many people find it very easy to be happy for others while to some it just doesn’t come naturally. Some people just seem to have a very competitive nature and without realizing, compete with everyone around them – their friends, colleagues, siblings etc.
Have you ever found yourself dulling down someone’s achievement by bringing up yours? Eg friend X sharing excitedly How they’re planning a big wedding at a certain grand hotel and you responding with how your brothers wedding was at an even better place..or how the hotel is just overrated lol.
You’ll be surprised finding yourself disliking someone who’s never done any harm but only seems to be doing better than you in this way or that. Well – I’m sure you already know that’s not a good thing. We can’t just go around being spiteful and spreading so much hate right?
The best way to get past our envy and insecurities is to question ourselves every single time we feel like we’re competing with someone in a competition that doesn’t really exist or if we’re being bothered by someone’s victory. If we can’t find an answer, and if this person has never done anything to hurt us..then the problem is in us right?
Remember no ones success is your business, so eliminate the hate in you and trust me you’ll be the only one benefiting from it because you were only hurting yourself and no one else. And if you’re living a miserable life then take others’ happiness as hope for your own. That there are good things in the world and you’ll get your turn too. OR May be your life’s pretty great but you’re just not being able to realize that because you’ve been too busy thinking about others.
So start calling yourself out on feeling that way the next time it happens. Remind yourself that being happy for someone else is merely an act of goodness in itself. Get to the bottom of your feeling and fix it. Purify it. Get yourself a new perspective, pass around compliments and look past the flaws (instead of looking for them). Be the person that when you see a picture of a happy couple or a graduation party on Facebook you are able to ‘react’ to it with the ‘love’ button, you know what I mean? 🙂 Very soon you’ll find yourself better, happier and a lot more content because you know what they say, 'We rise by lifting others.'