Mind Your Own Body
Throughout my life, I've been very skinny. I hit puberty much later than my friends and I was never as curvy as most of them. Not because I wasn't healthy or something. I just naturally have a fast metabolism and don't gain much weight. But of course, people were least bothered by that. So, for the better part of my teenage life, I relied on loose clothes and padded bras to avoid the "wow you have no curves" comments. Even today people come up to me saying I need to start eating more warna ghayab hi hojao gi. The joke was funny the first couple of times but seriously aunty I've been hearing it my whole life now, it's getting old.
Now, on one hand, while I was being body shamed for the size of my breasts, my best friend was being fat shamed for having gained weight post-puberty. If our lives were to be a split-screen image, it would be a picture of me force-feeding myself, and her longingly looking at that last piece of cake she couldn’t have. While she envied me for being skinny, I envied her for having curves. So, we spent our teenage years sending each other pictures of our outfits before every hangout, obsessing about what clothes would complement our body types. Stripes or no stripes, skinny jeans or loose pants, tunics or crop tops, you know the drill.
We joked about transferring just the right amount of fat from her body to mine so we could both be the right sizes. But in the midst of all that drama, if there's one thing I learned, it was that if you place your self worth in society's hand, you're never going to be enough. For society,we're always too skinny or too fat or too tall or too short. So really what's the point of trying to mould ourselves into somebody else's standards? As long as you're healthy and happy with how you look, you shouldn't let anybody else tell you that there's something wrong with your body.
There is always going to be somebody who's hotter than you, or smarter or funnier. But you should always remember that none of those people will ever be you, and that is your strength.