My Dholki was a small function at home. I was surprised most people, even those coming from Lahore and abroad could make it in time for that. Since, my shaadi was a 'Shehendi' (hope you're familiar with the idea - shaadi + mehendi instead of two separate functions) we kept one small dholki a day before.
There was dholak, and dance, and mehndi rasam. Later, the larkay walay showed up to join. It was A LOTTT of fun cause we danced our butts off. (which is basically why it was small and intimate so that we could have fun amongst ourselves without worrying lol) There was family, and close friends and just..happy vibes lol.
I wore a blue lehgna with a yellow choli. There was no 'kaam' as such. I just bought blue and yellow silk, with an embroided pattern so this outfit was literally NO EFFORT. But it was JUST what I wanted, teehee :D