7 Things you should remember to stay sane when planning your wedding
While most of us realize that planning a wedding is not a piece of cake, we tend to think if we have it all planned in our minds, and our ideas about our big day are clear: it'll be easy. Well, truth be told... IT ISN'T. To keep your sanity intact, and head clear... here are some things you should keep in mind as you plan your wedding. If your mind is calm, come what may... it doesn't seem so bad.
Your wedding is ONLY as difficult and complicated as YOU make it
Trust me on THIS one, ladies. Please don't kill yourself over something that can be made easier for you and everyone else. It's good to dream and have a plan, but finding the middle ground between what you want and what makes sense is VERY important. VERY. IMPORTANT. (I think I'll say it once more... VERY IMPORTANT).
- Things will never be exactly as you expect them
Hope for the best, but be prepared for the worst. Things will not, and do not come out JUST the way you like them. Remind yourself, that in case it doesn't work out the way you wanted (even though you tried)... IT'S okay. Really! It might just be better for you, and it might be better than you think.
- DAMAGE CONTROL
However, if something is a COMPLETE disaster (happened to me, I promise) then: Damage Control. Throwing a fit, creating panic and worrying your mom/brother/father is a big no-no. Find solutions, focus on what could be done. Weddings are all about problem solving. Damage control, ladies!!!
- Plan B
If you've taken a risk like you've planned something out of the box or something you're not sure of then ALWAYS HAVE A PLAN B. A lot of times unique out-of-the-box things don't work out how you imagine them to be and in case your plan fails, you're not a wreck. Instead you're like: 'I ALREADY GOT A PLAN B!"
- DO NOT COMPETE - HELL TO THE NO
Ladiiiiiesss, this is like SUPER important. DO NOT compare your wedding to a celeb's, to your friends', to some random aunti ki beti, to your friend's friend, or to your cousin. You're going to kill yourself, and what you want, in the process. You'll see weddings, dances, entrances, decor, dresses etc etc and you'll wish yours to be the exact same! BUT NO. Your wedding is yours, and its not a competition. Do what suits you and your family. I mean, it's good to get inspiration and ideas, but please don't kill yourself trying to compete with someone. Its not worth it. (Trust me, this is THE MOST difficult tip to follow). Every time you start wishing and GETTING UPSET (bolded and italicized) because of someone else's wedding... STOP. THINK. Do you even NEED TO?
- Your wedding is your wedding, yes. But family matters.
When you're the bride, you think its your wedding so its YOUR WAY OR THE HIGHWAY. Well, trust me, you'll get the attention without that attitude as well. Your family has dreams and plans on your weddings as well. Hear them out and consider them. You'll constantly feel pressure (CONSTANTLY) either from mama, abba, bhai, behn, susral, chacha, mamoo, khala, shumaila phuppo and even friends etc but take it easy. You can't keep everyone happy but you gotta hear them out and try to balance it out.
7. Say what you feel
It's not alright to keep your feelings bottled up. Talk about them. Find someone who understands and talk about your feelings. Make sure you also express everything you look for in the wedding and see if you can reach a compromise. Bottling up will only either lead you to crying yourself to sleep in bed..or throwing a bridezilla fit one day. So, let it out regularly!